Stop Trying to Sell to Me!

If you have been on any form of social media or to any group with other moms you have probably been pitched by at least one MLM. You know the ones. They want you to buy their great diet pill, leggings, wrap, nails, shake, timeshare, investment opportunity, bitcoin, and the list could go on forever. These are hard working moms like you who are doing all they can to try and bring in some extra money for their families while chasing the MLM dream of having a better life by selling you the same dream. As the Holidays hit I find myself ready to say again, “Stop trying to sell to me!”

Stop Trying to Sell to Me!

I feel like a disclaimer belongs right about here… Yes. I have products I sell. I have printables. I wrote a book. I even run a deal group that I earn a small commission from and earn money from some of the ads and links on this site. I am not against making money. Here’s the difference, I don’t like to FEEL like you are trying to sell something to me. I am sure you know the feeling I mean. It’s that feeling that makes your skin crawl, your wallet clench up, and your mind think of all the other places you need to be in that moment.

I thought it would be good to take a few minutes today and share some of the ways I think people should stop trying to sell to me.

Don’t write me out of the blue with your product!

This one drives me insane! If we haven’t spoken in months or years and you contact me about your diet product, chances are we aren’t going to be friends in that conversation. I am overweight and I am working on that but nothing makes a woman wanna open her wallet like saying, “Hey I know you are fat and we haven’t talked but can I make money off of your insecurity?” (Ok I paraphrased a little..) The point still stands though. Don’t reach out to someone out of nowhere and sell them on your product. It’s untactful and sometimes it can be downright mean. I have had this happen on more than one occasion where people who I didn’t realize unfriended me, refriended me to try and sell me something. No, just no.

Pick something and be about it.

I have friends who change businesses faster than most people change their underwear. If you don’t believe in the product you are promoting enough to stick with it after the first 90 days of MLM euphoria wears off, chances are I won’t either. If you are about nails. Be about nails. Know all about my nails. Know why I would benefit from your nails and why your little expensive decals would benefit me specifically. Understand me. I have encountered many people who give up after the first 90 days and have a new product that will change my life for the better while making them some money. That’s a fat negative. If it can change my life, I am going to wait the 90 days and see if you still think so after the initial high wears off.

I’m your friend not a potential client.

If we are genuinely friends, be my friend. If you really get to know me you will know that I am a huge cheerleader for my friends. I have friends who are entrepreneurs on multiple fronts and even if I don’t get it, I support them. My friends sell leggings, nails, pallet walls, candles, food, macaroons, essential oils, run Youtube channels, blog, and so much more. I won’t outright promote each of these because there are so many but if you ask for a recommendation, I probably know someone.  There is nothing more disheartening than getting reconnected with an old friend only to realize she just had a sales pitch on the back burner. Can someone say unfriend button?

Know my situation

Some of these MLM’s are PRICEY! I get that you want me to “pay for quality” and “invest in myself” but my family wants me to “pay the electric bill” and make sure to “buy food.” Before trying to guilt someone into buying a product that you believe would be good for them, make sure you are not guilting them into making a poor financial decision by preying on insecurities. Get to know them and their situation. There are some who would love to support your product and have their lives changed by it. However, they may be working hard just to break even. Don’t guilt them into buying your item. See them as a person and not a potential client.

Don’t add me to groups without asking!!!!

OH MY GOSH!!! Facebook has 20,000,000 groups already. I don’t need another 1,000 notifications from your group. I also don’t need my friends adding me so they can get an entry into your exclusive giveaway so you can sell to me. Manipulative much? Instead, ask if I am interested in joining your group. Not only will I be there willingly, I am more likely to engage in your content, share your information, and maybe buy what you are selling. (Isn’t that the goal?!) In my deal group, I encourage all members to ask before adding friends. I post a ton of deals and I don’t want to overwhelm anyone. I only want to help those who want the help.

Don’t fake invite me over!

Ok, let me clarify this one. If you only invite me over for a sales party that isn’t really an invite. I am an introvert. Small talk is seriously miserable for me. I love real conversation and you don’t get much faker than those sales parties. Please don’t invite with the “Just come hang out and you don’t have to buy anything, we just want you there” motto. No, you want to sell something. You have numbers to make. There is a certain expectation on these experiences. Even if you claim there is nothing expected, the whole night is there for the sole purpose of driving sales.

Do you have a way that people try to sell to you that drives you crazy? Leave a comment. I may feature some of my favorites.

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