Have you ever had that day where the ugly cry is the standard? You know the day I mean. You wake up to a mess of fighting kids and things that should have been finished. After that everything that could spill, break, or unravel does. From there the chaos really takes over. School is forgotten. Let’s be honest, most everything is forgotten. You are just surviving until bedtime when you can crawl into bed and wish the entire day away. I have had these days. In fact, I had one this week. It felt like everything in my home would fall apart in unison and so would I. I failed. I failed at everything in unison. That’s when I decided I need to find ways of moving past failure. I needed to be able to get up and do it all again the next day without the failure looming over my head.
Moving Past Failure
We do that don’t we. We fail. Maybe it’s a bad parenting choice, a word spoken in anger, or letting apathy get the best of us but we fail. I think the answer to moving past failure lies in the different definitions of failure.
The best thing to do with this is to look at our expectations and ask if they are realistic. You may not be able to clean the entire house. Maybe today you can only clean the kitchen cabinet. It may not be possible to complete all the curriculum but you could accomplish some. Your homeschool might not need to look like your friend’s as long as your kids are doing well and learning. Sometimes a change in perspective changes everything.
This one speaks to the heart of most moms. I don’t know about you but there are days where my failures come from feeling like I am just not enough. I lack the ability to do the thing I need to do and I fail. The first thing you need to do with this is to realize that it is a well-crafted lie. You were given these children to homeschool and parent. You are not deficient in the things you need to do right by them.
There are two things you can do to move past failure in this area. You can define your weaknesses and work to overcome them or you can find truths that counter the lie you are being told. It is so important to replace lies with truth. You are not a failure. You are not insufficient and you can do this.
This one comes in to play when you are doing your best and life just gets too heavy. Make sure to make time for rest in your day to day. Without those moments to rest and renew you will fail often due to working on less than enough.
Challenge yourself to take a few minutes of reprieve in your day. In our house, the children take mandatory quiet time in their rooms each day. It doesn’t have to be long but it gives me a few minutes of peace to recharge and give them my best.
This one hit me so hard when I read it. How many of us carry an excessive load? Sure, we don’t mean to. We are doing what is right, what is best, what is necessary. However, sometimes we are doing too much.
In those moments we need to look at what is on our plates. What can be removed to bring some peace back into your life? I read a book recently that suggested that there are many good things but sometimes we need to focus on the best things. Are the best things in your life losing your focus because you are invested in the good things? In order to move past failure, you may need to look at these things and decide what needs to go.
What do you do to help you with moving past failure? I would love to hear your ideas in the comments or on social media.
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