Mom life can be so busy. When you get invested in the lives you are in charge of it can be easy to lose focus on the future and focus on the here and now. It hit me over the last few months that my kids will be grown in under 9 years. It was a sobering reality and even more so because I have tabled my dreams a lot to help them chase theirs. Is that you? Today I’m sharing how to make a dream board and what to do to start dreaming again while being a mom.
How to Make a Dream Board
You will need
Making your dream board
Start by cutting out your stencils so you can lay out your design on your board.
Ust the ruler to line up your letters and make sure they are level with the board. The ruler will also help you with spacing.
Once you have your words laid out the way you want them, use tape to put them on your board along the outside of the stencil. (I didn’t do this and got a small bit outside of the stencil.)
Add paint to the corner of your foam brush.
Press on the middle of your stencil so that you are able to keep the form of the letter and then paint your letters on the board.
When you are done peel off your stencil carefully so that paint does not drip into places you don’t want it to be.
You will want to let the board dry completely before moving on to hanging it up.
Once your dream board is dry you will make sure to level it and then hang your dream board in the center.
Around it you will hang the chalkboards. Chalkboards are great because as your dreams change, you can update this area. It’s a great visual reminder of the dreams you are trying to achieve. Even better, you can have your kids update one of the boards for themselves and create an atmosphere of dream chasing in your home.
How do you dream again as a mom?
The dream board above is awesome but first we have to decide it’s time to dream again. I don’t mean dreams for your kids either. I mean dreams for you. Who will you be when they move out of the house? It can be easy in the middle of dirty diapers, potty training, homework, and all the things that come with parenting to lose sight of a day when you won’t be a parent.
So how do you chase dreams that bring you joy while in the middle of mothering? Let me share a few tips from my process over the last few months. I hope this will help you to break out of the funk and start to dream big dreams again.
Start by addressing why you let your dreams be put on hold.
Oftentimes we put our dreams on hold for good reasons. We’re focused on the baby phase. We don’t want to miss the toddler years. We want to make sure we are present for special moments.
However, there’s something more to putting those dreams aside. Sometimes we use the parenting phase of life as an excuse because we are afraid to fail. That’s not always the truth but sometimes it plays into it. It’s much easier to chase our children’s dreams than it is to chase our own.
So why did you stop chasing your dream? Was it about time? Was it fear of failure? Did it have to do with what it would cost you in other areas? Did you fail and lose your faith in your dream?
Before you can move towards big dreams you will want to focus on the why behind not chasing them in this season. It will help you to be ready for the next step.
Now it’s time to dream
This part can be hard but I’m going to challenge you to do something big. I want you to list out the dreams you have about your future without looking at them through the lens of your situation. In other words, don’t list out your dreams based on how much time you think the kids would give you to work on it or whether it is realistic right now in this exact moment. Instead, my challenge is to write out your big dreams. What do you dream about most for your future?
It can be so hard to dream through the lens of our circumstances and not see a potential for better days. I know I’ve done that on multiple occasions. For right now, the goal isn’t to succeed at all of your dreams. It’s to put down possible dreams you could achieve or that you secretly want to believe in.
What big things need to happen before you could achieve your dream?
Some of the biggest dreams can seem overwhelming and leave you feeling defeated before you even begin. Instead of looking at the bigger picture, the best place to start is with breaking up that huge dream into some bigger chunks. For instance, instead of saying I want to write a bestseller, maybe you say I need to write a book, find a publisher, build a promotion plan, and get my book in front of the readers I want to reach.
Take your dream and break them into big chunks. Don’t worry. This won’t be the last step. This step can feel overwhelming as well but don’t let it stop you. In the words of a dream coach I know named John Erik Moseler, “The world needs your dream.”
Don’t give up on this hard part! Your dream matters and you will get there if you keep working past these hard parts.
Break your big steps into even smaller steps
Don’t let those huge steps overwhelm you. Now is the time to work those big steps into more manageable steps you could achieve. We’ll use my example from above. So let’s say you wanted to have a bestseller. With that first step being to write a book, the smaller steps would be something like, write an outline for the book, work on the characters for the book, define the story arc, and write x number of words each week. Each step on a larger scale can be broken into smaller steps.
It’s time to take those big steps from your last part of your dream and break them into smaller more attainable goals. Do yourself a favor. Write it in pencil. Plans don’t always work. In fact Ashley Eckstein shared in a conference I attended recently, “Plan A and Plan B might not be enough. You may not succeed until Plan G. Keep moving forward. You aren’t the person you will be on Plan G so you can’t write that plan yet. You can only work on the step you are on.”
Don’t be afraid to simplify it as much as you can. It’s completely ok to make it as small as you need so that you feel like you can achieve it.
I remember when my kids were babies I would say, I’m going to wash 10 dishes. No matter what happens with the family, 10 dishes. It was the small goal and win I needed in order to achieve my bigger goal of getting better at housekeeping with babies. It’s completely ok to make your goals small so you can achieve big dreams.
I know it can be tempting to let your dream be put on hold. Take some time to look at the dreams you have listed. What could you tweak in your life so that you could achieve even one of the dreams on your list? Once you pick one, start to chase that dream today. There’s no need to wait for the kids to get older or the world to be ready. Instead, find ways to chase your dream without compromising your children. You can do this!
Get your Dream Sheet Printable here!
Do you want a consolidated way to work through all of these steps? I have put together this simple free printable for you.
Once you work on your dreams, let me know how it goes! I would love to hear what dreams you are chasing and how you do on achieving them.
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