It seems like every time I open social media I am seeing more and more moms starting businesses, running blogs, and hustling hard. Each of them inspires me and pushes me to keep moving forward. That said, I also see a bit of a problem with this trend. Not everyone is made to hustle. In fact, sometimes moms are better off if they skip the hustle.
Dear Moms, Skip the Hustle
This won’t be a popular opinion with all moms. If you have the hustle in the core of your soul, ignore this. Skip the blog post and work your heart out. That said if you aren’t that mom. If the thought of an MLM or hustling hard doesn’t appeal to you, then please read on. This one’s for you.
Raising those babies is enough!
So many moms feel a constant urge to have a side hustle to prove that they are something more than a mom. It’s almost as if this constant hustle and success is in some way proving that they are enough. That they matter.
Mothering can be seen as small or not enough in the eyes of many. In fact, when I would tell people that I am a stay at home mom I often got the trivial, “That’s nice.” Not the that’s nice that means they really think that’s nice.
No. It was the that’s nice that really sounded like, “Can’t you do more? Can’t you be more? Why did you settle?”
Can I just say, that’s total garbage!
You are not less of a mom because you choose to be a mom who stays home and doesn’t chase a career or a hustle. You are investing in the area that you believes matters most.
When my children were smaller I did not work. I didn’t have a side hustle, a blog, or anything else. I chose to put my days and hours into raising my babies. I wanted that season of their life to be about growing my relationship with them and teaching them.
As they got older, that changed. I felt pulled in another direction.
That said, I loved the time I had as mom only.
I wasn’t less because I didn’t hustle.
Neither are you. If you don’t want to sell weight loss meds, write a blog, build an empire, or have a world-changing career, that is ok. You are doing valuable work as a mom and you matter! Don’t let someone negate the value of what you do or make you feel like you should also be chasing some massive success outside of the home.
But what if I HAVE to hustle?
Sometimes the hustle isn’t a choice. There are bills to be paid. There are things that have to be taken care of. I get it. I took a job that I was excited about a few years ago because the bills spoke louder than my desire to be a stay at home mom. I had to choose the job over my desire in that season not to hustle.
You know what? The hustle is built into me. It’s why I am sitting here at 9 at night in a quiet house writing. I love the work. I love getting to help people.
That said, it’s ok if that’s not you. It’s ok to find a way to provide for the family and leave it there. You don’t have to hustle all the time and you can still be the mom you want to be.
Can I offer a challenge though?
If you have to hustle, make it something you love! Take the time to figure out where you can thrive and invest your energy there! You will feel better in the end if you are somewhere that plays to your strengths and leaves you feeling joy.
So what if you don’t want to hustle?
If there is one thing that is frustrating more than anything else, it’s the people who don’t respect the fact that you won’t hustle. So what do you say to them?
Thank you but no thank you.
I appreciate it but no thanks.
I would rather not.
That isn’t my focus right now.
I appreciate it. Please think of me in the future.
No. <— I like that one! There’s something so simple about the word no. You don’t have to feel guilt about saying no and you don’t have to justify it. A simple no can be the answer to some situations.
So are you a hustle mom or a skip the hustle mom? Why?
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