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Wondering how to handle toxic family? Parenting is an adventure of its own but adding in figuring out how to deal with toxic family members can make life much harder. There is just something about toxic family members that adds a layer of frustration to parenting. Not only are you protecting your peace, but you also have to protect your child’s peace. Here are a few tips on how to handle a toxic family as a parent.
I am a suicide survivor on both sides of the equation. I have lost friends to suicide and nearly lost my life to suicide. I know what it is to be on your hardest day running out of hope. For one, I can promise you it gets better. I have also put together reasons not to commit suicide to help you remember why you should choose to stay!
Are you having suicidal thoughts and considering a suicide attempt? So often people will say if you die by suicide it is a permanent solution to a temporary situation. Sometimes this can make you feel worse and actually raise your risk for suicide. The situation you might be in right now feels insurmountable. It can be helpful to talk about feeling this way with family and friends at times like this. If your family are bad people and don’t care (Or you assume they won’t) and you’re feeling hopeless or feeling trapped, I want you to know you are not alone.
I want you to continue to live! In fact, I want you to live so much that I have put together this post packed with reasons not to commit suicide!
Before I continue, if you or someone you know is considering suicide please call the national suicide prevention helpline. In the U.S. the number is 1-800-273-TALK. Suicide.org has a list of lines for other areas in the world. You can also text the crisis text line. Text HELLO to 741741 to speak with someone. Right now, this post is not the answer you need if you are in the middle of a crisis. Reach out to someone who can help you. You are not alone.
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You have something unique to offer this world. There are things you can do that no one ever has done or ever will do again! Leaving means taking that ability from the world before it has the chance to become what it should be! Stay because the world needs your unique abilities!
It may not feel like it on your darkest day, but there is someone who wakes up excited that you are part of this world. Don’t take that from them!
When we reach our darkest days, we see only the pain and assume we are unimportant. The world is not better off without you. You are important and you matter!
When we reach our darkest moments, we only hear the pain. Pain is the ultimate liar! Pain lies more than anything but the truth is, things get better. This isn’t the end of your story.
Music is the most beautiful thing the world has ever seen. Not only does it hold stories and bring emotions but it can change everything. There are songs you haven’t heard and maybe even songs you haven’t written. Stay.
Whether you love your smile or not, there is someone who would miss it. Someone would hear a favorite song or see something that made them think of you and miss your smile! Stay.
It may sound trivial to think of plants at a moment like this but your plants need you to stay. Can you really trust anyone to protect and care for your plants the way you do?
Right now the pain you are feeling feels like the most all-consuming pain to ever exist. I promise it gets better. It doesn’t go ahead. “Time heals all wounds” is a lie. Instead, time gives you the ability to learn to heal from the pain and experience it in ways that aren’t so debilitating.
Don’t let your story stop here. You have lived through the hard part. This is the part where you work to find healing, change up your story, and write yourself a new story. You control the rest of the pages. Don’t end your story here.
People may not have loved you as you yet. That doesn’t mean they never will. You will be loved for you. Not for any one’s definition of you. For you. Stay so that you can see that day come.
There are so many mysteries still left in the world. Stay to figure them out. Figure out the answers to questions you don’t dare to ask.
You made a mistake. Everyone does. However, you are not your mistakes! The choices you made don’t define you. You will have to face the consequences, but there is life and beauty after your worst mistakes.
All of my best memories happened AFTER I chose to stay. It may feel rough now but you have a chance to make new memories. You have the opportunity to make the kind of memories that will make you smile every time you think of them! Stay.
There are people in this world who love you so much that losing you will break them. It will be the loss they won’t recover from. You aren’t just making this choice for yourself. You are making this choice for someone who loves you.
Whether it is a child, a love interest, a best friend, or someone of extreme significance, they’re still out there! Don’t leave before you have a chance to meet the person your heart will beat for!
One of the biggest lies dark days will tell you is that you can’t outrun your past. You can. Your past doesn’t get to steal your tomorrows from you. You deserve the chance to live a new story that isn’t defined by your yesterdays! Stay.
Right now, you don’t remember the dreams you had for your future. you had dreams big and small that you tabled for different reasons. This is my challenge to you. Stay because the side of you that dreamed is still there. You may not be ready to dream just now but there will come a day when you will! Stay.
There will come a time when these dark days are a memory for you if you will choose to stay. The hardest moments you’ve ever walked through will become a memory of a different time. Stay to see the day this all becomes a distant memory.
People have hurt you. People have made choices they shouldn’t at your expense. Don’t let them take you out of the story. They don’t get to take your tomorrows from you. Stay!
In case nobody ever says this to you, I would grieve for you. I would feel heartbroken to know you weren’t part of this world anymore! Instead, I would love to celebrate your life with you. Tell me about the beautiful moments and the amazing things that come after choosing to stay!
Whatever you are going through right now feels like it will break you. It feels like you can’t possibly survive! Not only can you survive, but there are also amazing things on the other side of this. Stay because this won’t break you!
This situation you are walking through feels permanent. It feels neverending. It’s not. You will see better days. You will see things change in ways that will make you wonder why you ever considered leaving. Stay for the better days.
You haven’t met the best version of you yet. That person is on the other side of this hardship. It may take work, counseling, and time but the best version of you is on the other side of this moment! Choose to stay to meet the best version of you.
I know I’ve said this before but I’ll say it again, your best days are on the other side of this! You will see better days! If you can’t see it yet, trust me. I didn’t think so either and now I’m living a life I didn’t think was possible!
You are not alone! It feels like it now but I promise you are not alone. The world is filled with people like me who want you to see your value, to know you aren’t alone, and to know you are loved! Stay. Stay to hear how many people really care about you.
You have grand and small adventures waiting for you on the other side of this. Climb the mountain, do the 5k, say hello to that person you’ve been nervous to talk to. The world is filled with adventures you were meant to take!
Forget the 26 reasons above. Let me beg you to stay like I wish someone would have begged me to. I am begging you to choose to stay. Choose to live. Choose to do the work in therapy. Choose to heal! You are an amazing person and the world needs you in it! Stay!!!
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I have found myself back in the tween phase as I parent my second child. With my daughter, there was a lot I learned about this phase. I am a strong believer in the fact that the tween phase is one of the hardest when it comes to parenting. They are between childhood and teen years with desires to be both. I wanted to share some of the tips and tricks that help us through the tween season.
