Homeschooling is a full time commitment. I honestly believe that you pour yourself out and do what you can to grow brilliant young people into well rounded adults. While this is a beautiful calling it can be easy to lose yourself in the process. Between cleaning, cooking, working from home (if you do), homeschooling, driving to different events, and the list goes on it can be easy to forget who you were before homeschooling. You may never be the person you were before you started but I am here to share 7 ways to discover who you are when homeschooling steals your identity.
7 Ways To Discover Who You Are When Homeschooling Steals your Identity
I want to start by saying that I know there are moms who love living life poured out to their children. I know there are moms who find their identity in their status as a homeschool mom. This post isn’t for you. This is for the mom who looked up at the end of the homeschool year and couldn’t remember who she was. This is for the mom who was given a few hours to herself where she wasn’t expected to cook, clean, or take care of anyone and didn’t know what to do with herself.
I know you homeschool mom. I am just like you. We started our fifth grade year with R this year. I have homeschooled her since the beginning. I looked up last year and realized I didn’t know who I was. In the process of homeschooling and doing life I had lost myself a bit. I have been focused on rediscovering who I am now. Here are a few of the things I tried.
Try old interests.
You may not be the same person you were when you started homeschooling. That is completely ok. It doesn’t hurt to try out some of the things that used to interest you? Did you love reading? Were you good at sewing? Did you enjoy dancing? Spend some time trying these things out and see if they still bring you the joy they once did.
Don’t be afraid of new things.
It can be easy to get in a rut. Instead of sticking to what you know, try something new. You may hate it. You may regret ever trying. You also may love it! I have had that experience with a few things I have tried this year. Did you know I am definitely not made for ropes courses? I’m not even a little bit ok with heights. Glad to know that hasn’t changed. I did find that I enjoy writing for myself. I even wrote a book this year. My daughter and I are in the process of writing a children’s fiction book together. Get out of your comfort zone a bit and try something new.
Make time for yourself.
As a homeschool mom it can be hard to find time for yourself. With everything on your plate it can be easy to justify plugging along. Don’t do it. Make time for yourself a priority. What that looks like may vary. For you that may mean that you hide in the car for an hour with the Friday Night 90’s! It could mean that you walk around the store and don’t buy a thing just to be alone. It could mean that you head out to a craft class. Find something that you can do for you and make it a priority. Even a small bit of time each week focused on something you enjoy can change your whole week.
Be Geeky if you want!
I am a major geek. I love to watch Doctor Who, go to conventions, and read aloud to my kids. I’ll tell you a secret. I could call read aloud time a homeschool thing. I do believe in reading aloud to your kids but I read aloud to them because I love the books we are reading and enjoy reading time. Find the thing that you are a total geek about and own it. Have fun with those things. I won’t judge you if you decide to dress up as a character from a favorite show, have a full conversation in Klingon, or make your own wand. It’s the little things in life that can make us happiest.
Get out with friends.
My friends are amazing people. My best friend constantly challenges my perception of myself and what normal is. When we go out she pulls the extrovert out of this introvert. She pushes me to laugh and have fun. Find some friends that you can get out with and explore who you are. They will see you more clearly than you will at times. Let them challenge you and help you to find who you are now.
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Be ok with losing parts of who you were.
This year has been a year of change for me. I worked with teen moms for 9 years. It was one of the most wonderful ministries and I loved it! That said, everyone knew me as Meagan from Teen Mops. They didn’t really know me. I put my identity in that for a long time. When that disappeared I had to let go of that part of myself. It can be hard to see a part of yourself that defined you go away. Is there something from your past that you are still identifying yourself as? Is that really who you are now? If it isn’t, let it go. I guarantee you are some amazing things now. Sometimes we have to let go of who we were before we can embrace who we are now.
Get out a pen and paper.
If you had to sit down and write a letter to future generations telling them who you are, what would it say? Sit down with a pen and paper. I say a pen because I don’t want you to delete. Just be transparent. Write until you can’t write anymore. When you are done read it. You may be surprised what you find out about yourself.
Did you lose yourself homeschooling? What have you done to find out who you are now? What parts of you are gone that you can never get back? What new things are there that you didn’t realize were a part of you now? Hold on to this letter. It will give you a great starting place for figuring out where to go next.
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